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5 smart tips on getting your kid ready for kindergarten without tears

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Are you at that point of life where your kid is ready to begin kindergarten? Or first year of schooling? Whatever they call it where you live. It can be a daunting and harrowing time for both parent and child, so we try to do everything we can to make the transition as tear free as possible. I’m at this point again in my life this year. The eldest finished up her schooling journey a year ago, but now the youngest is set to begin kindergarten in 2021. So I’ve put together 5 smart tips on getting your kid ready for kindergarten without tears from my experiences the first time round with daughter #1, many years as a kindergarten teacher and this year’s journey with daughter #2.

5 smart tips on getting your kid ready for kindergarten without tears
Getting your kid ready for kindergarten

Tip 1- Preschooling

The number one tip to help in getting your kid ready for kindergarten (ie first year of schooling) is to make sure your child has some form of preschooling. Whether this be an actual preschool they attend, a preschool program at your daycare centre or at minimum going to a regular playgroup, it is a vital step to a successful transition to formal schooling. Your kid needs to have been away from your side (or your extended family) and worked on socialising with other adults and children.

During my experiences teaching kindergarten for many years it is the children who have never been away from their family for any time that have the hardest time adjusting to kindergarten. They are scared, may cry for weeks and don’t know how to interact with an adult and other children who will not just give in to their immediate demands. And as more demands are made on the curriculum requirements for these children beginning school each year it keeps getting harder for those with no preschooling opportunities.

Tip 2- Preparation

Start getting your child ready for kindergarten transition as early as you can. My 4 year old has been a little bit anxious about kindergarten since the beginning of last year when her little cousin who she’d spend time being cared for at her grandparents place started big school himself. So we had to work on reassuring her that kindergarten was still a year away for her and that she’d do many things that would help her not feel anxious or scared about it (some of which didn’t eventuate due to Covid restrictions, but still helped her feel more prepared and ready as she neared this milestone).

If in a preschooling program many of these preparations will be covered in that, but it doesn’t hurt to cover these at home too. Involve your kid in talks about how they will soon go to kindergarten as they are growing up. Touch on things they may do there at big school and that you will be getting ready for this exciting time. If they express any fears about what is to come, talk through that and work out a plan you can work on together to overcome those fears. Read stories or watch videos about starting school.

Participate in orientation programs the school provides when you are enrolled for the next year. In Australian schools these are usually in Term 4 of school. Pre-Covid orientations involved parent introductions to the school and services and usually 3 or 4 sessions for the children to visit and experience ‘big school’. 2020 made those orientations quite difficult for kids starting kindergarten this year. Every school around our state managed orientation in their own different way and adhering to social distancing requirements. Our little miss got a one hour visit where she watched a video and then made a Humpty Dumpty and did some tracing practice. She then came home with the library bag the school give each child starting and a booklet of information about starting school. Parents didn’t get to have their usual meeting, but were provided all information about the school via a link posted on the school’s social media page.

Tip 3- Practise

Now when I say practise I’m not just referring to the skills that your child will need to complete work in Kindergarten. Yes, your child should have experience with using pencils to draw, trace and colour, talking to other children and adults, looking at books and counting objects. But they need to also practise doing other tasks that are involved in a school day.

Things such as

  • Being able to dress themselves with everything ready for school.
  •  Put on and take off items off like shoes, socks, jumpers, jackets, hats.
  • Open a lunch box or snack container.
  • Open packets of food – store bought, zip lock bag, gladwrap, etc.
  • Being able to sit on a child sized chair and pull it closer in to the table.
  • Being responsible for their own belongings.
  • Open zippers or clips on school bags.

Tip 4- Requirements

Every kindergarten class has items that your child will need for the year. Be prepared and arrange to have these in advance of the first day. Depending where your school is situated these could include uniforms, school bags, paint shirts, library bags, lunch box, drink bottle, devices, headphones, stationery, tissues, wipes, etc. Contact your school for what exact requirements they have as some can be very brand specific on what they request.

Tip 5- Involvement

Your child will feel more confident and comfortable with the idea of school if they are involved in the collection of their school requirements (see tip 4). Of course uniform shopping is often the easiest one for them to participate in as you need to check sizing and want it to fit now, but also last the school year. Don’t forget school shoes and practise wearing them so they don’t cause blisters on the first week of school!

Then you can ask for their input in items they will take with them every day. Buy a bag in their favourite colour. Test out which lunch boxes your child can open and likes. Involve them in as many of these small decisions as you can to help them feel ready for kindergarten. This is especially important for kids with anxieties.

Good luck

Hopefully these few tips help you manage your transition of getting your kid ready for kindergarten. If you would like some additional ideas for getting your kid ready for kindergarten and big school, see my download here of things teachers will be eternally grateful to you if you implement them. (COMING SOON)

For those looking for some printable activities for the practice with tracing activities see my friend Beck’s page.

To read more on being an organised mum click here.

How living with a chronic condition prepared me for a pandemic.

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How living with a chronic condition prepared me.

2020 has been quite a year worldwide. Coping with the pandemic of Covid 19 has brought many stresses to people’s lives and ways of living that were unheard of for many before. So I thought I’d share how living with a chronic condition prepared me for a pandemic of this magnitude. Not that it has been easy for those of us who are chronically ill…we’ve had out own issues along the way too. Maybe though it will shine a light on how many have had to live for many years prior to this virus wreaking havoc with society this year.

As my current readers know already, I have lived with the chronic condition of Multiple Sclerosis for nearly 16 years now. So restrictions on my way of living with Covid 19 have not been as much a shock to the system as to those who live normal health problem free lives.

How living with a chronic condition prepared me

When one of your symptoms is disabling fatigue that prevents you from even getting out of bed for the day, having to self-isolate after a Covid screening is a breeze. And as we’re encouraged to test for even just one symptom here in New South Wales, having some time to rest and recover at home is so much better than being completely immobile for a day or more.

Putting your health first is another easy thing when you have lived with chronic illness for so long. Nothing is more important than your own health. You need to be okay before you can help anyone else out -whether friend, relative or your own child. So choosing to wear a mask out in public is not a big deal. Plus it protects you from others and helps protect others around you. We are used to not going out in public or visiting friends when unwell. how living with a chronic condition prepared me

Being strict with your winter hygiene is another thing you tend to do when you have a chronic condition. Personally I’m on medication that suppresses my immune system, due to the nature of how Multiple sclerosis attacks the body. Catching a cold or flu might not be a big deal to you, but for me it can take weeks to fully recover. But being in employment as a teacher with children around me every work day has been hard in previous years, as sick children do come to school and cough and sneeze over anyone nearby. Usually me. And that’s how I become sick most years. Having people more aware of their own hygiene practices this year, and being required to wash hands frequently, use sanitiser and wipe down surfaces more regularly has been great. I’ve even improved on the good practices I already had in place. Yes, I’ve still had symptoms that have required me to be Covid tested 5 times so far this year (all negative fortunately). But I’ve been able to rest and recover and haven’t been affected my nearly as many viruses as I would in a regular year. how living with a chronic condition prepared me

Living with a chronic condition you usually have to put up with some social isolation as par for the course. Whether due to fatigue, pain or medical appointments that can’t be re-scheduled we can miss a lot of events with our friends and family. Thankfully social media and video calls have helped a lot with this recently. And we have learnt to treasure and savour our moments with those loved ones when we can get together or catch up in a conversation. Yes it has been harder this year when we’re not allowed to travel everywhere we would like to see others, but it’s not like we don’t have other options in the digital age. Embrace the changes in technology that allow us some contact still, rather than complain about yet another thing we feel entitled to in this day and age.

So I end with cheers to the chronically ill people who have been leading the way in changed behaviours to deal with a pandemic. And for those fortunately healthy ones, remember these conditions will not last forever…but for some people they always have been a way of life and will continue to be long after any possible vaccine. Think of them before you complain about the next aspect of your life being too hard this year. how living with a chronic condition prepared me

Self-Care Habits to Reduce Stress and Improve Mental Health

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Self-care—an essential part of any healthy lifestyle—is all about balancing our mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual wellness through the actions we take every day. Unfortunately, many of us prioritize the needs of others at the expense of our own mental well-being. If you could use a little mental health boost, try adopting some of the following self-care habits into your daily routine.

Self-care habits to reduce stress and improve mental health
Self-care – an essential part of any healthy lifestyle. Guest post by Brad Krause

Find Exercises That You Enjoy

Exercise has a direct effect on the brain. When we exercise, our brains receive an increased supply of blood, oxygen, and nutrients to support various cognitive functions, from learning to emotional control. Exercise also has an immediate effect on our bodily levels of cortisol and adrenaline—stress hormones that cause us to feel anxious or stimulated. At the same time, exercise results in the release of mood-elevating endorphins in the brain.

There’s a widespread misconception that we have to torture ourselves to benefit from exercise. This just isn’t true! When you enjoy your fitness routine, you’ll find it much easier to maintain. Bustle recommends finding exercises you love by trying new fitness classes, exercising with a buddy, and choosing convenient times and locations to work out.

Cook for Yourself

A healthy diet is the best natural remedy for your mental health. According to The Conversation, simply eating more fruits and vegetables may lead to a significant improvement in your psychological well-being. Filling up on healthy foods will also leave you with less room in your diet for unhealthy options that are bad for mental health, like foods filled with sugar. Take the time to cook instead of ordering takeout or popping a ready-made meal in the oven. This way, you can control everything that goes into your body. There’s also something very therapeutic about carefully preparing a healthy meal for yourself! To control portions, consider ordering meals with pre-portioned ingredients from a food delivery service.

Take Time to Relax

Relaxation is just as important for our mental well-being as healthy eating and exercise. Unfortunately, too many of us rush through our lives without taking a moment to breathe. Try to schedule rest periods into your day. Engage in relaxing activities like meditation, yoga, tai chi, deep breathing, and progressive muscle relaxation. These relaxation techniques can help relieve tension in your body and reduce feelings of anxiety.

A cluttered and unkempt home could be disrupting your relaxation routine and may even adversely affect your relationships with family members. Remove the negative vibes in your home by allowing more light in, decluttering, and tossing out broken items.

Go to Bed Earlier self-care

Relaxation techniques can also help you fall asleep faster at night. This is important because a lack of sleep can be devastating to our mental health, contributing to mood problems and cognitive deficits. If you’re one of the many people who struggle with sleep procrastination, take steps to break those bad bedtime habits. Try giving yourself a window of time to go to bed instead of pressuring yourself to fall asleep at a specific time every night. Also, try limiting your use of electronics before bed and adopting some bedtime rituals that you enjoy.

Learn How to Say “No”

Making more time in your life for self-care might require you to say no to certain obligations or demands. This can be difficult, especially if you’re used to pleasing others. If you’re having trouble saying “no,” think about the time and energy you spend saying “yes” to things you don’t have to do, like going to coffee with someone you dislike or attending fruitless meetings. Reclaim your time by turning people down more often. Try to get in the habit of asking yourself why you’re agreeing to do something and focusing on how you feel about it.

Don’t let anything take priority over your mental health. While it can be tough to dedicate time for ourselves when we have so many responsibilities, tending to self-care will ultimately benefit everyone else around us as well. Find ways to take care of your body mentally, physically, and emotionally, and you’ll have more joy and energy to share with others.

After spending most of his time in a corporate setting and neglecting his own self-care far too long, Brad embraced his calling and decided to become a full-time life coach. He now spends the rest of his life helping people get a better foothold on their wellness above all else.

To follow more from Brad Krause click here. self-care habits

Come read more post related to mental health from Sparkly Bright Eyes.

Having a chronic condition during the 2020 pandemic.

Date night ideas when married

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One of the things recommended to help keep your marriage fresh, healthy, and passionate is to have regular dates with your partner (which often requires date night ideas to achieve). Date night is not just for you when you’re single. It is an essential part to your relationship’s well-being. Now they may not be as frequent as when you were dating, but are still important in maintaining the loving feeling between you and your partner. And it is handy to some date night ideas up your sleeve for when you can fit them into your busy schedule.

But of course once you are married or even just a long term relationship it can be harder to think of those date night ideas. And depending on what stage of life you are at can make it harder or easier to arrange times for dates. So here are some date night ideas to try out for those date nights (or days or weekends. However they fit in your life at the moment).

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First married

Book one night or time a week in for something to do with just your other half. Whether watching something on television together or going out for the night to karaoke try to keep up those activities that you liked to do when you first met.

Memory lane dates

Go visit places that have a positive memory of you as a couple. Where you got married, had your first date, first kiss, etc. Reminisce about those good memories. A weekend away can also be a good re-connection activity where you just get away from the daily stresses and just be the two of you.

Pregnant dates

Give her the chocolate and TV remote and then leave her alone. Ask her what she wants, and then give it to her. (I could list some other date night ideas for her, but believe me it’s safer this way).

New parent dates

As a new parent you may not want to leave your precious bundle with anyone else, but it’s also important to re-connect as a couple, not just as parents. Even just going down to the local coffee shop together while Grandma watches the baby sleeping can be beneficial to you both. But even better is have a few hours to do something you love together (provided you can put down the phone and not worry about the baby updates).

Toddler/Pre-Schooler parent dates

Little kids can often be harder to schedule something in. You may need to schedule in your calendars to arrange something, even if it is only once a month. Locking that time in as essential puts a higher priority on keeping your date appointment, and thus a higher priority on the two of you working well together. Having a nap together on the lounge if your little one still naps may be the only option for some couples. Even if you have a babysitter, do not underestimate the value of a good nap!

Parents of teens dates

Teens are generally easier to organise dates around because you can usually leave them on their own and don’t need to arrange child minding. Usually any activity your teenager frowns upon will guarantee you some alone time together.

Covid dates

Get creative and work out what you can do at home. Try a backyard movie night with beanbags. Arrange for your favourite restaurant to deliver a meal and serve up with candle lights at the dinner table. For those active types, a walk around the block together could be good. Snuggle up and binge watch a season of something on Netflix.

Make it a habit

Making the health of your relationship important in your life is crucial to helping stay in that loving partnership. The longer you stay disconnected from your partner, the harder it can be to reconnect. So try to make it a habit of choosing to have a date with your other half on a regular basis, whether that is once a week or once a month or anything in between. Activities we do repeatedly become more ingrained and easier to continue doing. And surely keeping the flame alive with your partner is something we want to make easy to do.

Comment below with any great date night ideas you like to do with your partner. Or come join a conversation in my Facebook Group.

For tips on how to be more organised come see this post.

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Having a chronic condition during the 2020 pandemic.

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To say the start of 2020 has not been great would probably be a huge understatement. In Australia we were still dealing with bushfires in January (The Gospers Mountain Fire was active from October till January). In February we had floods. Then in March the spread of Covid 19 started to impact us. Social distancing began to be suggested more, businesses started to be affected and the great toilet paper saga began. But it has been more worrying for those who have a chronic condition during 2020 pandemic. Having a chronic condition during 2020 pandemic

having a chronic condition during 2020 pandemic

Background to the 2020 pandemic

A little background on Covid 19. Also known as Coronavirus disease, it’s an infectious disease caused by a new virus. It causes flu-like symptoms and is spread mostly by contact with people with the virus. This virus started in China in December 2019, and by my birthday at the end of January was declared by the World Health Organisation as a Public Health Emergency of International Concern. On 11 March 2020 it was declared a pandemic. At that stage the virus had spread to all areas of Italy and was beginning to impact the US. chronic condition during 2020 pandemic

Now for most people Covid 19 just causes mild to moderate respiratory symptoms. Some people infected with the virus have even reported not even feeling unwell, yet testing positive after being in close contact with other confirmed cases. And the information about is still evolving.

But for those of us with chronic conditions, immune suppressed or compromised people and the elderly it is not such great news. As in the most severe cases require hospitalisation and possible ventilator use in the ICU. And the death rate from Covid 19 has varied from country to country, seeming dependent on the strategy governments and health authorities have taken in this pandemic.

My chronic condition situation with MS

At first I wasn’t so worried about having a chronic condition during the 2020 pandemic with my multiple sclerosis. Advice from MS Australia and neurologists was that we shouldn’t be at more risk of catching Covid 19 than anyone else.

But then more information started coming out about specific MS medications and the potential risks. You see not many people with MS have had the disease yet for them to really know how Covid 19 might affect MSers. And a lot of the medications available in Australia aren’t so in China where the majority of cases had occurred at that point in time. So specialists are making educated guesses on how they might affect each group of medications.

My medication, Gilenya, has a mild to moderate risk of complications on current advice. But a real risk of relapse if medication is discontinued. However they ask if we do develop Covid 19 to contact our Neurologist as well as the other requirements of the Health authorities…so they can track the data more specific to the Multiple Sclerosis community world wide.

Not having a clear idea about how this pandemic is going to affect your family is worrying and exhausting. As a teacher I was required to be at my school until Monday 23rd March, until they finally brought through some guidelines allowing at risk people to work from home. Knowing how quickly things spread through schools of normal conditions like gastro and colds/flu, I was getting quite panicky at the risk of catching something that could land me in hospital. And every little symptom my family reports is a cause for thinking “Do I need to be worried about that?”

Things to do

The only things we know for sure on how to help when you have a chronic condition during the 2020 pandemic is the strategies being advised to all people. Wash your hands well for 20 seconds (as we know sanitizer has been super rare since at least January) and maintain social distancing. In New South Wales we’re being recommended to keep 1.5 metres away from all people (tricky with preschoolers) and simply to not go out unless absolutely necessary and essential. Plus for the last 4 or 5 weeks we have been staying at home, seeing very few people…which is hard on all.

Facemasks at first were not recommended as effective in avoiding Covid 19. As the types that are able to keep the virus out are needed by medical personnel for if we do come down with it. But since I started writing this blog post the advice has varied as to whether you should be using them or not and the protection they offer. I do know that some medical practices in Australia have required patients attending to wear a mask whether displaying symptoms or not. I started sewing up a couple for us and a friend who needed a mask to see her doctors.

It has been a trying and scary time for all and I think the whole world is completely over the need for distancing from all other people! It’s just not natural for a social creature, which we humans are. But it’s even more trying and scary for those more at risk of complications than the average person.

Living with a chronic condition can be hard enough at times without thinking about your own mortality and what the risk of going to the shops could hold. But as to following the advice for staying healthy, I think that my fellow chronic condition people are on top of being able to follow through on that, as it’s part of our regular lives anyway.

Stay safe everyone and let me know in the comments below how you have been feeling during this pandemic with a chronic condition. chronic condition during 2020 pandemic

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Having multiple sclerosis at Australian Christmas

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Having multiple sclerosis at Australian Christmas

It sucks. Trying to deal with multiple sclerosis in the summer heat is bad enough. And lately for Australian summers those have been pretty darn hot (many times the past few summers we’ve had far too many days of over 40 degrees Celsius, and often in a heatwave for 3 days duration). Trying to deal with having multiple sclerosis at Australian Christmas when relatives are reveling in the heat is utterly awful. It never turns out to the lovely holiday celebration that you hope for.

If you go outside in the heat your day doesn’t go well. Brain function slows right down, so you can’t keep track of conversations properly. I find that if I’m in any situation since diagnosis with a lot of people talking, that I have to focus so hard on listening to the conversation, which in turn makes my fatigue (another typical MS symptom) more pronounced. Movement slows down and you worry about accidentally knocking things over…like your precious Christmas drink. Your body starts to ache deep in the muscles and you know it is very likely to have you seeking out pain killers to be able to sleep though the night.

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How you feel with fatigue when having multiple sclerosis at Australian Christmas

If you stay inside you choose to be socially isolated, as you miss out on interacting with relatives you rarely see all year. Christmas for me is the time to catch up with all those relatives. I really look forward to catching up with my aunts and cousins that I barely see through the year and find out what is new in their lives. Or just chill out in their company. But not many people want to stay inside unless it’s extremely hot. (Just a regular hot day with multiple sclerosis at Australian Christmas can make life tough).

Missing out on those social interactions can bring on feelings of depression. Why me? Why do I have this stupid disease that stops me enjoying Australian summer like the rest of my family? Why should I go out to an event, if I can’t be around where all the people are? This negative self-talk also aggravates your fatigue.

To help combat these feelings and symptoms from having multiple sclerosis at Australian Christmas here are a few suggestions I have used to try to make your day better and a more enjoyable experience for you as an MSer (person with multiple sclerosis).

  • Arrange for Christmas to be at your (hopefully air-conditioned) house. It’s easier to arrange where tables and chairs will be for visitors and you can situate them in the coolest part of the house. Fans also help move the air around which can help make you feel cooler too.
  • If you have to go elsewhere, keep an eye on the weather forecast and plan your day to conserve energy/spoons for social interactions. Rest when you can. Ask to lie down in a quiet room for a few minutes to recharge through the day.
  • Sip iced water regularly. Current research shows that doing that can help reduce the effect of heat on your body pretty efficiently. Using a water bottle that keeps it chilled saves you filling up so frequently too if out and about.
  • Invest in quality cooling garments such as cooling vests, scarves and headbands. Wear for any outdoor activity but also cool when indoors.
  • Be kind to your self. Realise that you have to look after yourself before others and if you can’t deal with some Christmas activities, then so be it. Your well-being comes first! Having multiple sclerosis at Australian Christmas

So although having multiple sclerosis at Australian Christmas can be difficult, it’s not all bad! Know your limits of what your body can deal with in the summer heat. Learn the best way for you to look after yourself in the heat with some of these tips and still enjoy the Christmas season. HaHaving multiple sclerosis at Australian Christmasving

Let me know in the comments below how you go dealing with your Multiple Sclerosis during the heat of summer.m Having multiple sclerosis at Australian Christmasultiple sclerosis at Australian Christmas

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